hello everyone welcome to follow him favorites you know the deal This Year John and I take on with a single question from this week's lesson John the lesson this week is Genesis 24 through 27 and we've got a difficult question for you that I hear for my student all the time which is how do I find a spouse Abraham has a servant who goes and finds a spouse for Isaac and brings her home and just sets are right in front of Isaac like how great would this be for those who are we thinking I've got to find somebody on this planet to marry and be an eternal companion why can't I have a servant like I gave her him does who's going to do this for me what would you say to a student who says how do I find a spouse
 I wish it were an exact science it's so different now I like to think that marriage is one of the only Commandments the you cannot obey by yourself that the agency is so important and it's an inner range marriage here that's a totally different time place part of the world but for us today that you have to find somebody who's willing to marry you and you're willing to marry them the only other command I can think of it requires someone else's agency is multiply and replenish the Earth and you're supposed to get those in the right order right now so it's a totally different type of thing and I think sometimes the best you can do is just be where you're supposed to be doing what you ought to be doing and asked heavenly father to help put somebody in the same space where you are somehow and your school in your ward in your neighbor whatever because no it's not an exact science with Isaac and Rebekah maybe the Lord had a special interest in that working out the way that they did it did it's a great question I want to hear what you have to say
 give me a section 88 of the doctor and Covenants where the Lord says like leave it on to light right intelligent leaves to intelligence truth if you want someone who is full of light and truth and intelligence to be attracted to you you must be full of light and truth and intelligent so I think we control what we can control which is ourselves and our own Genesis so we we fill Our Lives full of good things and then we trust that the Lord will bring the person he wants to in the right time in the right place I found that fairly early in my life I was just twenty-two and I got married but yet you were a little bit older if I remember I was thirty-three the day I got married and so it was a good time though cuz it really made me restless and seeing since there's a YouTube I guess on the education we Channel a talk that I gave think they title it who when and why we marry or something like that that was Maya
 to answer this very question but the funny thing is people that have seen it seemed announced at all your older it was recorded a while ago I loved some of the things that the prophets of said about what falling in love is because I mostly the database will use to figure out what falling in love is is Hollywood and songs on the radio which is a terrible place to go to figure out how to do life I went to Nephi in the mister go and do just went and did and that was over but he was large in stature and so do for us it's a little harder but I love what you said likely with the light be where you're supposed to be doing what you're supposed to be doing be out there I know for a fact the Lord can put compatible people in the same room somehow I like what Michael Wilcox says I guess that we've had he says this isn't a decision that God will make for you you you still need to make it but he can get a good people in the same space that's what I would say to is we spend too much time trying to control things we can't control
 we're going to end up frustrated and disillusioned and maybe even kind of jaded and angry we say I can control me then I'm going to be the best possible version of me I can be and I'm going to be happy where I am I've never seen someone unhappy single all of a sudden become happy married right happy single people make happy married people so I would say find happiness in the situation you're in be the best version of yourself you can possibly be and then we we trust the Lord right we trust the Lord they got it the right thing will come at the right time and it's not an exact science we all know Wonderful talented righteous incredible single adults and it's so if there were a perfect formula week we cherish but I don't think they're it I think there's there's some explanations that may just have to wait but like you said Hank and love that idea in fact I wrote an article for the new era once called I have no friends by Joe
 by the way it came to me and said how do I make people like me and I die really were I thought well I don't know if you can make people like you but you can make yourself more likable and that's kind of what you were talking about Hank so don't try to find the best person to try to be the best person that you can be Heavenly Father work his magic and let him see if he can get you both in the same space don't have a perfect answer but I have perfect faith that things will work out at things will work on time I like that John things will work out for you so be optimistic right be up to Mystic be hopeful and you never know the miracle you might you might be looking for could be just around the corner but you won't find it if you don't if you stop turning Corners if you stop the journey so keep moving forward present included safe with a cheerful heart with the optimism accentuate the positive and things will work out he did this what would I do if I were you this whole poem that BYU on what would I do if I were you if marriage didn't come through I'd be sad but I'd say there's no time
 this to get busy find something important to do and I think that marriage is more likely to come as a byproduct of pursuing other useful activities and goals and that's right out of an inside and talk and he was Elder Carmack John Carmack and then buy a direct and pointed campaign he says it's more likely to come as a result of pursuing other activities if you're out there you're doing good things you meet somebody that way so I like that I think one more time we probably ought to say John that maybe you don't end up married in this life but we trust the Lord even in those situations right knowing that great Latter Day Saints have come before that have never been married and I am done incredible work on the on the planet you don't have to be married to do incredible good important things I love to say that moroni's greatest work was
 accomplished while he was a single adult that maroon eye that stands on top of the temples I'm alone my father's been killed in battle he is the one who who a bridge is the book of ether puts it in the Book of Mormon writes those remaining chapters of Moroni last two chapters of Mormon greatest work while he was a single adults oh yeah I remember he said I have not friends nor whether to go there reminded me of my high school years I have no friends nor whether to go well we hope that you will join us each week for follow him favorites and come join us on our full podcast it's called follow him you're going to love the podcast this week it's with Dr Camille Frank Olson who just has a really incredible job so let John and I help you get your scripture study in but if not we'll see you next week for fall in favorite